Resilience can take a bit of a battering during this cold season. Most of the time, through the winter months, it can be head down and focus on the busyness of life and although that is still enjoyable I can tend to forget about what is important to me, what “feeds my soul”. For me it is often being outside walking, taking photographs and being in the beauty of nature. When I’m surrounded by fantastic landscapes, quietness and stillness it makes my heart soar, it feeds my soul.
Having run workshops on Emotional resilience one of the many coping strategies we discussed was to make time to do the things that make us feel good – to have fun, to appreciate what we have in life. Resilience isn’t just being able to cope in the “here and now” moment but it is a daily/weekly process of building up the resilience by what we put into our lives.
It’s about knowing what is really important to us in our lives and then maybe letting go of the other stuff that actually isn’t as important as we think it is. To build our resilience and bring joy and contentment into our lives we need to make time and possibly let go of other activities/tasks.
I remember that 13 years ago whilst I was doing my life coaching training I was asked the question what will I give up in order to make my life how I want it. Sometimes we can forget that we can’t always keep adding things into our lives so we need to say goodbye to old familiar activities and ways of being, and bring in new ways in order to be the most satisfied that we can be.
“Feeding my soul” and developing my resilience allows me to be relaxed/focussed and content in what I currently have in my life.
There are Five key things that can boost and bolster your resilience and happiness –
CONNECT – with others; develop relationships and good social supports
KEEP LEARNING – try something new, set yourself a challenge
BE ACTIVE – good physical health equals good mental health
TAKE NOTICE – be curious, be mindful, savour the moment
GIVE – giving in any small way enhances a sense of wellbeing
So think about what is really important in your life, do things that make your heart and soul feel great, embrace change and boost your resilience! I hope you enjoy the poem below.
What is Life?
It is the flash of a firefly in the night
It is the breath of a buffalo in the winter time
It is the little shadow which runs across the grass and loses itself in the sunset
Crowfoot, Blackfoot Indian Leader