Four horsesmen of negativity

The Four Horsemen of Negativity

It was Dr John Gottman who coined the phrase the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and related it to negative behaviours within relationships.

We can take this model and equate the Four Horsemen of Negativity – Monotony, Tiredness, Complexity and News to having an impact upon our perception of wellbeing and happiness.

According to Andy Cope, author of The Art of Being Brilliant each of these areas add a bit more stress and negativity to our lives.

Monotony

Although at times we can do with a quiet life, going through the same routines, eating the same food, doing the same work with the same people can reduce our experiences and sense of living and enjoyment.  Monotony can limit our potential and we may never find out what we are truly capable of doing and being until we step out of our routines.

Tiredness

There is a huge array of research on the importance of sleep and most of the time it may not be of concern but when we become tired and struggle to replenish our energy we can become increasingly more stressed and irritable.  This in turn can impact upon the people around us and may lead to conflict.  Focus and concentration are affected along with our sense of humour and capacity for tolerance.

Complexity

We may think that life is never simple but sometimes we are our own worst enemy and make things more complex than they really are.  How easy is it to get fixated and hung up on small stuff that in reality really doesn’t matter?  With our truly wonderful minds and belief systems we can “make a mountain out of a molehill”, we can make assumptions or jump to conclusions thus increasing the complexity of a situation.

News

In today’s world we are bombarded with constant information and have access to world news 24 hours a day.  It is good to be informed but remember that the news we hear is already being filtered, someone else is choosing what we hear or read or in some cases making it all up.  News can be depressing and therefore can affect our mood and wellbeing.

So what can we do to get ourselves away from these Four Horsemen of Negativity?

  • Change habits, (watch the video on this), do something different, become mindful of what you are doing and give yourself choices.
  • Listen to your body clock, go to sleep when you are tired and get up at a regular time.
  • Reduce the complexity of situations by deciding whether you can change them or need to accept them or are able to let them go because in the long run they are not that important. “Don’t sweat the small stuff”!
  • Turn off the news at least three times a week, avoid listening to it or buying a paper and do something else that is rewarding and enjoyable.

Ride away from negativity and reclaim you health and wellbeing!

Healing energy

How does Shamanic Healing and Reiki differ?

Healing both from Reiki and Shamanism uses energy to assist the body and mind to find balance and restore harmony from distress, illness and ill health.  Neither are cures, and should always be used in conjunction with any prescribed conventional treatment and advice.

Having evolved my healing practice from Reiki to incorporate shamanic healing I am beginning to gain a greater understanding of how they differ.

Reiki allows energy to flow through the practitioner to the client and for the energy to travel to any part of the person physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.  It kicks start the body to natural heal itself even though we don’t always know the root cause.  The energy, often from Universal energy which surrounds us, can replete areas where the energy is depleted and calm down aspects/areas that may be over stimulated.  Our first indication of feeling unwell or “out of sorts” will often manifest itself physically although the origin may be in the emotionally or spiritual energy field of our bodies.

The client is a recipient of this healing energy and needs to be willing to receive Reiki and can comfortably lie back to receive whatever is required.

Shamanic healing is more active and proactive.  As a practitioner I still use the Universal life force of energy but actively call in compassionate guides and spirits to work with me.  In this sense it is a three way partnership of healing between the client, practitioner and helping guides.  Shamanic healing also involves exploring and gaining a greater understanding of the issue through gentle questions, therefore, although relaxed, the client has a bit more work to do!  This creates an ownership and commitment to explore, understand and heal.  Questions asked such as – “what does this pain/issue look like? – is it yours or does it belong to someone else? – what is its purpose?” leads to a greater understanding of the client’s body.  Use of sacred tools such as drum, rattle, voice and breath can be used to assist the healing process.  Healing can occur in a variety of ways through releasing misplaced energy and replacing with healing energy in different forms.  It may go to the very needs of the soul.

Both healing modalities can be highly effective in gaining a deeper form of healing and balance that is not cognitively led but is guided through a deeper and, at times, ancient knowledge of total well being and balance.

What can Reiki and Shamanic Healing be used for?

  • Restore emotional balance related to issues such as stress, anxiety, low mood and trauma
  • Promote physical well being within the body
  • To ease and release pain
  • To assist in letting go of past hurts and emotional blocks

If you would like to know more about these beautiful interventions please book a complimentary Insight session to discuss your needs further.