Change – the important bits to succeed!
In the last blog we talked about some of the major blocks that can easily get in the way of making the changes we want.
When we want to add or take away something in our lives it requires persistence, determination, consistency and a deep sense of knowing why this is important to you. We also need a willingness to welcome failure as a way of learning. All “successful” people have some time or another failed and it is what they have learnt from the experience that has made them succeed. As the saying goes – “there is no such thing as failure, only feedback” and failure is only as you perceive it.
Here are some of my ways of bringing about change:-
- Focus on what you will be gaining – what will you feel/be/have and what impact will that have on your life? Write down how this change will benefit you in everyday life eg be able to play in the park with children/grandchildren, lose weight to have enough energy to walk to work, save x amount a month in order to go on holiday next year etc
- Write your goal down or make a picture of it and put it somewhere where you can see it everyday.
- Don’t just think or decide how you want things differently – start doing it. It is so easy to live your life in your head but change will only happen if you do something different.
- It’s been said many times but make change happen with small and achievable steps. Even if doing that change is just for that hour or day – you have gone forward. Build on your steps, recognise your effort, chart your progress and always keep in mind what you are gaining.
- Let go of old hurts as the world has already moved on “When you forgive, you no way change the past – but you sure do change the future” A Cope & G Oates
- Choose your attitude towards change – see it as a challenge, interesting rather than hard work, difficult. The language you use will affect your mood and approach.
- What strategies have worked in the past when you have brought about change in your life? – employ them again.
- Share what you want to happen with others and ask for their help in supporting steps towards achievement. This is the main one that works for me as the more I talk about it the harder it is for me to give up – pride takes over!
- Act the person you want to be. The saying “fake it till you make it” helps to imprint into your physiology how you feel, stand, walk, talk – you become comfortable with this new way of being and will attract into your life what you need to achieve your aim.
- Remind yourself and answer these four powerful questions to keep you on track.
- Turn obstacles into problems to be solved rather than seeing them as an excuse to give up.
Whatever strategies you use, keep going, be flexible, adapt and have a firm belief in yourself – you know what difference it will make to your life. If you need a bit of a support or “push” to get you going, you are welcome to book an Insight session with me.