It was Dr John Gottman who coined the phrase the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and related it to negative behaviours within relationships.
We can take this model and equate the Four Horsemen of Negativity – Monotony, Tiredness, Complexity and News to having an impact upon our perception of wellbeing and happiness.
According to Andy Cope, author of The Art of Being Brilliant each of these areas add a bit more stress and negativity to our lives.
Although at times we can do with a quiet life, going through the same routines, eating the same food, doing the same work with the same people can reduce our experiences and sense of living and enjoyment. Monotony can limit our potential and we may never find out what we are truly capable of doing and being until we step out of our routines.
There is a huge array of research on the importance of sleep and most of the time it may not be of concern but when we become tired and struggle to replenish our energy we can become increasingly more stressed and irritable. This in turn can impact upon the people around us and may lead to conflict. Focus and concentration are affected along with our sense of humour and capacity for tolerance.
We may think that life is never simple but sometimes we are our own worst enemy and make things more complex than they really are. How easy is it to get fixated and hung up on small stuff that in reality really doesn’t matter? With our truly wonderful minds and belief systems we can “make a mountain out of a molehill”, we can make assumptions or jump to conclusions thus increasing the complexity of a situation.
In today’s world we are bombarded with constant information and have access to world news 24 hours a day. It is good to be informed but remember that the news we hear is already being filtered, someone else is choosing what we hear or read or in some cases making it all up. News can be depressing and therefore can affect our mood and wellbeing.
So what can we do to get ourselves away from these Four Horsemen of Negativity?
- Change habits, (watch the video on this), do something different, become mindful of what you are doing and give yourself choices.
- Listen to your body clock, go to sleep when you are tired and get up at a regular time.
- Reduce the complexity of situations by deciding whether you can change them or need to accept them or are able to let them go because in the long run they are not that important. “Don’t sweat the small stuff”!
- Turn off the news at least three times a week, avoid listening to it or buying a paper and do something else that is rewarding and enjoyable.
Ride away from negativity and reclaim you health and wellbeing!